I Never Thought......

....that there would be a day that I did NOT want one of my kids to visit.  No, let me explain.  It's not that I don't want her to visit.  I just don't want her and my son, Mustachio, to visit here TOGETHER.  Not after what happened the last time they were here together.

My daughter, Buttmunch, drank waaaaay too much because everyone was sad over the death of my young nephew, Kevin.  As some of you may recall, he was killed in a one car accident on his way to a school sport camp.  He wasn't driving either.  In fact, it was the daughter of his coach and she was not a teenager.  The weather was the problem for the most part.  It was raining hard and the car hydroplaned into a tree.  The driver was injured, Kevin was killed but three other boys in the car escaped with minor cuts and bruises.

Mustachio, Buttmunch, Marcus Aurelius and Raven drove down here to visit with Tara and give her what support they could because they loved her (they were close cousins).  Like it is with most Irish families, alcohol was involved while they talked and reminisced.  I don't know how it started but Buttmunch and Mustachio ended up in a physical altercation to which I was the primary witness.  The antagonist was Buttmunch.  I give Mustachio credit that he never once laid a hand on her.  But I can't say the same for Buttmunch.  She was really ugly in her attack on him.  I was horribly embarrassed, especially because of how little respect *I* was shown.  She would NOT stop her attacks on him and she pushed her brother so hard that he hit the wall and my DVD rack and broke the rack.  I was surprised he wasn't hurt although I doubt he would have admitted it if he was.

So, when Buttmunch found out that Mustachio was coming down to visit, she was surprised to find out that he really didn't want to bring her along.  It was HIS vacation time for one thing.  When Mustachio talked to Marcus, he found out that HE was very reluctant to have Buttmunch come to visit either.  I think that we both really felt that we didn't want them here TOGETHER...AT THE SAME TIME.  Mostly because we think it's a case of oil and water when they are together.

But, when she was told how both of the families felt about her coming, she was (obviously) hurt by it and had to find out from us WHY.  I was taken aback a bit but I told her that I felt she had more important things to do.....like find herself a job.  She keeps swearing that she has been trying but no one is hiring.  SHE thinks it's her age but I have seen the stores hiring people MY age.  The difference I think is in how they present themselves.  They are more confident than Buttmunch.  Plus, I think in her heart, Buttmunch doesn't WANT to work.  She would rather find someone to support her but no one is lined up for that.  Why SHE doesn't have the self-respect she needs in order to impress an employer, I am not certain.  But I think that is the main reason she isn't employed.  She doesn't EXPECT to be hired, so she isn't.

When I told her what I felt, she started screaming at me that I was only listening to Mustachio so I didn't know what she was or wasn't doing.  However, I think if she was really trying, she would be on the phone with me and not just calling when she's upset with Mustachio.  Not only wouldn't she let me finish a point I tried to make with her but she was SCREAMING at me at the top of her voice to the point I couldn't make out a word she was saying.  So I hung up.  I don't need to be screamed at and *he who screams the loudest is NOT the winner* if you get what I mean.  I don't think SHE does.

So I DO feel awful that I feel the way I do but I would like to enjoy a visit with my kids.  I would be constantly on edge because I wouldn't trust her not to start a fight.  Hell, even Mustachio can be annoying about not dropping a sore subject when he's told *ENOUGH*!  Oil and water.  Fire and gasoline.  Not good combinations.  What can I say?

Sorry to vent on you all but my life sure sucks lately.  It's a wonder I'm not under sedation or ready to slit my wrists.  Sheesh.

Cold weather hitting here already tonight.  The warm front headed down to somewhere familiar and didn't stick around here.  Our high tomorrow is only supposed to be in the upper 40's.  Low tonight around freezing or lower.  Brrrrrr!

Love you all.  Keep warm, dry and drive carefully for heaven's sake.  **Wink**