Rest In Peace, Little Brother....

A long time ago, in a city far away, a little boy was born.  He was the fifth in what ended up being a family of seven children.  He was a sweet, funny, curious little boy and he grew into a man with a loving heart who loved his family.

He married late in life to a wonderful woman named Patty.  They expected to live a full, long life together but...in May of 2001, she died of a rare form of leukemia.  The boy of my memory (and that was how I always thought of him) was never the same after that because she was the love of his life.  Today, May 14, 2016, my sister Bee went to his house and discovered he had died.  The police said it looked as though he had been dead several days.

A long time ago, we had an argument/discussion about who would die first.  It was a crazy thing for us to talk about at the time but it was decided that whoever DID go first at least wouldn't have to go through the trauma of missing the others.

I have been crying off and on most of today.  At one point, the Beast held me in his arms and let me cry.  He knows how much I love ALL my family and this was a bit of a shock.  We all knew that he seemed to be on a destructive course and it shouldn't have been a shock but it still was.  My poor sister, Bee, was disgusted with his behavior but couldn't stop him.  I am not sure she even feels his loss like the rest of us do.  She must feel relief that he is now out of his pain.  He never did seem to get over Patty's death.  He once told me he wished he was with her.

I believe he made Bee his executor and she is following his wishes for no funeral or wake.  She does want to have some kind of memorial for him when his ashes are interred alongside Patty.  I'm glad of that much since we need that common mourning together as we had for our mother and father.  Our children that loved him need that also along with various cousins.  He could have had a great life.  He had plans to come down into our area in a couple weeks and I was really looking forward to seeing him, as was Cee.  

Now, all I keep remembering is how inquisitive he was as a child and how much he loved all his nieces and nephews when he was older.  He will be much missed by all of us that loved him.  Rest in peace, little brother.  I loved you very much.

Remember to tell those you love that you do.  Today is all we really have since tomorrow is not promised.  Life is short.  Don't waste it.

David Wayne T.
Born December 16, 1954
Died April 14, 2016 


PS:  Here is Bratfink's post about our brother's passing:

 http://planetbratfink.blogspot.com/2016/04/brat-fambly-chronicles.html